Archive for April, 2005

Commando in the making

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This boy is forever trying to dive off the bed.. I bet he’ll make a good diver or commando in future. He’s always scaling new dangers.

The baluku which he acquired last week was aggravated when he decided to test the hardiness of his forehead by banging it against the wall. The swell was about to go off, when he decided to perform that act, bringing the swell back plus a patch of blue black…

Ohh by the way, does learning how to pull out drawers considered a developmental milestone for babies? If yes then he has reached another milestone because he is starting to pull out the lower drawers under the tv rack………


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Just finished reading this book.

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Learnt 2 things from this book:

(1) “Praise in public, criticize in private”

From my observations, a lot of parents neglected the fact that kids (no matter how young they are) do have some sense of self-esteem and ego. Many parents commit the mistake of critising the shortcomings of their own children in the public and very often in the presence of the little ones’ friends.

I remembered vividly when I was in K1, a conversation between my mum and her friend. She told her friend :” I tell you ahhh, next time ahhh I can never depend on this girl to feed me one ahhh! she ahhh no use one! Her younger sister is better, I think I can only depend on the younger one!”

“OUCH” I was only 5 years old then, what did I do for her to conclude that I won’t be able to do my part as a daughter? Since young, I was always the quiet girl who got bullied by my younger sister and yet she’s the one who would get all the new toys. My sister was only 2 years old when my mum said that to her friend.

Ain’t it shocking that a 5 year old girl would carry what her mum said for 20 over years? I’m shocked too. I have bad memory, but yet I remembered that conversation as if it just happen yesterday.

Today, I am proud to say that, it is her useless daughter who is keeping her employed and it is also this useless daughter who she’ll run to whenever she needs help to solve some problems or run some errand.

So parents, heed the book’s teaching and my advice to think twice before you speak in front of your child. You do not want them to grow up thinking they are not being loved and to dampen their self-worth.

(2) “When discussing consequences, don’t make threats that are outright lies (“If you do that again, the police will take you away” etc.) Futhermore, don’t issue a warning involving a consequence you are not actually willing to carry put.”

“If you don’t behave ahhhh later the policeman will come and catch you!”
“You anyhow run lah, go lah! later bangali come and catch you!’
“you noti somemore!! I don’t want you liao, sell you to bangali!”

Don’t the above threats sound so familiar?

Threaten the kids with those for repeated times and they will soon learn that those are just empty threats which will never materialise.

“if you don’t behave, we will cancel our trip to disneyland”
“if you don’t behave, we will all go shopping and leave you at home alone”

Before you spew similar threats, do ask yourself are you really going to cancel the whole trip? Is it fair to penalize the rest of the family members for the mischief of 1 child? If you are not prepared to really cancel the trip, then think of some other forms of penalty. I don’t think many parents will feel at ease leaving a naughty child home alone while the rest go shopping as a form of punishment. He/she may be up to more mischief and ended up with regrettable consequence if left at home.

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First Dip

Declan got his first dip this morning! The dad gotta dig the lazy me out of bed early in the morning… It’s extremely difficult to separate me from my bed on weekend mornings.. me and the bed are just so much in love with each other that practically I want to be it’s siamese twin…

We just bought the swimming suit from Kiddy Palace yesterday. I chose the suit instead of the triangular piece of sexy fabric as I worry that he may catch a cold with too much flesh expose.

Before I let him out into the pool, I slapped on plenty of Banana Boat SPF50 sunblock for him. Kiasu hor??!! SPF50.. I scared he get sunburn mah. If his skin start peeling right after his 1st dip, I bet his ah ma will ban him from future dippings. So must be careful!

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Before the dip
Doesn’t he look kinda worried??I think he got no confidence in me as I’m a non swimmer and the last time i don on a swimming costume was donkey years ago when I was in secondary one. *count* *count* *count* wahhh 10 fingers also not enough must borrow my baby’s fingers, no wonder he looks worried.

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Somehow he still looks worried, though I held on to him tightly. That timid fellow.

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His dad took over and guess what??! He was so busy making sure that he was keeping baby’s butt floating that the forgot to make sure that baby’s head was above the water too. Ended up, baby drank a mouthful of water+chlorine+urine+poo+mucus+saliva+sweat etc. He got a funny expression on his face so I guess that mouthful must have tasted yucky.

Overall, he enjoyed slapping at the water. He didn’t seem too thrill when we try to get him to float. As it was his first dip, I didn’t dare let him stay in the pool for too long, for fear that he might catch a cold which would mean perpectual ban from the pool by his ah ma. I took his :”Hachooo!” as an indication that we should end the dip. All in all, he only stayed in there for about 15mins. Kinda short but as this is the first dip, it’s better to play safe. Will prolong his dip progressively.

Oh, notice the absence of a float? We did buy him a float for him to sit in. But we naively thought that the dad’s lungs will be powerful enought to puff it up at the pool so we brought it there without inflating it first. The dad threw in the white towel after huffing and puffing a few mouthfuls of co2 into the float, for fear that his lungs would collaspe.

Points to note for next dip :

(1) Must remember to bring his bathing robe to keep him warm. Today forget.

(2) To puff the float up with a pump before going to the pool.

(3) To bring some floating toys for him to play with.

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Virgin Fall

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Remember this picture…? I think my boy won’t be smiling so brightly from now on if we place him in that chair… Reason? He just fell off that chair a moment ago…
OUCH OUCH OUCH OUCH OUCH!!! those “ouch” are not from him… but me… my heart pain…..

First time is always painful mah hor? We have guarded him vigilantly for the past 9 months and today, our line of defence collapse….

Mil put him in the bamboo chair, walk a few steps away to throw all the ingredients into the slow cooker to cook his porridge. Just a few seconds away and that little powerhouse thought he is a commando, so he lifted his butt and try to climb off the chair, ignoring the fact that his balancing skill is practically non-existent….before my mil could turn her attention back to him, he toppled over like humpty dumpty…. O..U…CCC…HHHHH…

Hubby MSN me to break the news to me… the first thing which flash across my mind was what happen to Mama Stacey’s cousin as described in her blog….. I just read that entry this morning… and now… it happen to my boy…. buy 4D also not so “zuen” (accurate)

No more bamboo chair for him from now on!!! Tomorrow go buy play pen!

One more thing to add on to my worry list! see lah?? So busy with worries….

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Toxic anti-fire chemicals used to coat common household goods are seeping into breast milk in Australia at levels higher than in some overseas countries, environmentalists have warned.

The fire retardants, known scientifically as PBDEs (polybrominated diphenyl ethers), are used to protect a wide range of goods including computers, televisions, chairs and mattresses.

But the chemicals, which are fat soluble and build up in our bodies, have also been linked in overseas studies to cancer and problems with sex hormones and brain development.

Read the above from this link provided by a friend in Australia.

*GASP* *pace up and down and up and down*

The info in there is kind of worrying. Are we breastfeeding mums poisoning our little ones unknowingly??!! The facts from that article is based on findings in Australia and Europe, so what about Singapore??? Does our household items also contain this harmful chemical?? Probably so…. since it is a widely used fire retard agent.

Further search on “PBDEs” online yielded more information such as :

“The data from Sweden show a drastic increase in the quantity of PBDEs detected in women’s breast milk. Since no definitive data regarding the health effects of children’s exposure to PBDEs in breast milk have been published, it is not possible to draw conclusions regarding the impact of these rising levels. However, enough is known to raise concerns. Like the dioxins, furans, PCBs, and organochlorine pesticides, PBDEs are bioaccumulative and persistent. Unlike these other chemicals, no serious international efforts are under way to ban these hazardous chemicals. The trend toward higher levels in breast milk signals a need for immediate action to stop human exposures, before the levels rise higher and risk compromising the safety of children’s first food. Toward that end, other monitoring studies in other countries will help clarify the scope of the problem.”

“We tested 40 Northwest mothers for PBDEs–chemical flame retardants widely used in consumer products such as furniture and computers–and found in the breastmilk of every woman in the study, at levels much higher than in other countries.”

“These dangerous chemicals may impair the intelligence and motor skills of children and disrupt thyroid hormones, which are critical to proper brain development in utero and during early childhood”

However, in the midst of all these scary info available on this harmful agent, there are also some consoling articles such as:

“Why Breastfeeding is still best for baby”

Now ain’t the above information just gonna add on to the list of things which we mummies have to worry about?? I think I can be promoted in my alternative employment as a “worried mother” to an “insanely worried mother”……

Now I see this statement “to overly love your child, you may sometimes be doing more harm than good” in a different light. We love our children, that’s why we did not choose the easy way out of feeding them formula. We persist on, even when breastfeeding give us great inconveniences especially for working mums like me. However, seems like this sacrifice which we did for our little ones may subject them to some dreadful harm….

My eyes are crossed now from reading those links above. >_

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Why is it that it’s always the mums who are reading baby care, disciplinary, child development books etc? Ain’t the dads concern or even worry about the physical and emotional well being of their little ones? Or is it that the dads are so expert in the field of child raising that they don’t need the extra information and can still run on auto gear?

Why is it always the mums who will be trying all ways and means to fill up their little ones’ day with a variety of activities for fear that they’ll be bored or retard in their development if their brains are not stimulated?

Why is it always the mums who will worry about what their little ones’ eat? Whether they are taking in enough milk/food, whether they are nourished enough or not etc?

Why is it always the mums who will worry about whether their little ones’ are dressed nicely or not for an outing?

Why is it always the mums who will go toys hunting for the little ones?

Why? Why? Why?

Are the mums too kiasu? or the dads too bo chup? I think it’s a little of both. Basically most mums are a little too kiasu and most dads are a little too bo chup. Women are worrisome creatures by nature. They always worry and usually they will think of things to worry about well in advance. I worry that next time my boy will not be able to go to Henry Park Primary School as our registered address is nowhere near the school. See what I mean? My boy can’t even walk now and I am worry about Primary School!!! Siao!

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This boy has finally decided not to go on torturing his parents with late night feeds anymore. For the pass 1 month, he has been doing without his middle of the night feeds except for once when he was ill and I gave him some warm water instead of milk. That was the only time when he drank water from the bottle.

We manage to help him kick the habit of night feeds by not immediately jumping out of bed and rushing to grab the bottle from the fridge the moment he stir in his sarong. Previously, at the slightest hint that he’s gonna wake up, we’ll grab the bottle and dunk it in hot water to warm it up for fear that his hungry cries will rock the whole clementi. As days go by, we get more and more tired, more and more lazy and we always try to drag drag drag before getting the bottle. There was this point of time we realise that if he stir and whine, he’ll stop when we continue to rock the sarong and if that don’t work, we’ll pull him out and let him sleep with us on the bed. Surprisingly, he’ll continue sleeping without crying for milk wor!

HaHA! Strike gold! So now, no more night feeding! Bravo!

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